There are lots of ways to improve your self-confidence over the long-term – but sometimes you need an instant boost. You can’t walk into an important work meeting, (or a class at college or a room full of strangers at a party) whilst frantically re-reading a self-help manual, or making a last-minute phone call to your life-coach. So here are ten secrets to boosting your self-confidence in just a few seconds…
在一段长时间内，用来提升自信的方法有许多种——但是，有时候我们却需要一种即时的激励。相信，谁也不能够在匆忙地再次阅读一本自助手册，或者给你的生活导师通完电话之后就能够马上信心十足地投入一个重要的工作会议，或开始大学课程或者参加一个全是素不相识之人的聚会。所以，下面就为大家介绍在数秒钟之内激发自信的10个秘诀......
1. Smile
The one-second tip for when you’re feeling nervous and unconfident is simply to smile! You don’t just smile because you are happy and confident – you can smile to make yourself feel better. The act of smiling is so strongly associated with positive feelings that it’s almost impossible to feel bad while smiling.
Smiling is much more then just a facial expression. The simple act of smiling releases feel-good endorphins, improves circulation to the face, makes you feel good about yourself in general and can definitely increase your self confidence. … you will also appear more confident to others while you’re smiling.
秘诀之一: 微笑
在你感到焦虑不安、缺乏信心之时，使你即刻解脱的秘诀是——非常简单——微笑!我们不只在心中充满喜悦和自信的时候才可以微笑——我们也可以用微笑来让自己感觉好一些。微笑这一行为与正面积极的情感如此紧密地联系在一起,所以当你微笑时，你感觉沮丧的几率微乎其微。
微笑绝不仅仅只是一种普通的面部表情。微笑，这一简单的面部表情，可以释放使人感到不错的内啡肽，可以增强面部血液循环，可以让你感觉自己全身顺畅，当然也就能够提升你的自信......所以，当你微笑的时候，在别人眼里你就会更显得自信。
2. Make eye contact
As well as smiling, meet the eyes of other people in the room. Give them your smile; you’ll almost certainly get one back, and being smiled at is a great self-confidence boost. Like smiling, eye contact shows people that you’re confident. Staring at your shoes or at the table reinforces your feelings of self-doubt and shyness. This tip is particularly useful for work-related situations – make eye contact with interviewers, or with the audience for your presentation:
Eye contact helps take the fear away from the speaker by getting the audience closer to him. Stress is mainly a result of being with the unknown and uncontrollable. Eye contact gives the speaker a picture of the reality that is the audience. It also helps in getting the attention of the audience.
秘诀之二: 保持目光接触
像保持微笑一样，你还需要保持与房间内的其他人都有目光接触。先对他人微笑，几乎总会有人回应你的微笑，这样的回应就会激励你的自信。微笑与目光接触一样，都表明你是个自信的人。相反，一味地盯着自己的鞋子或桌子则会让你显得更加缺少自信甚至害羞。这一条秘诀在工作相关的场合相当实用——求职者要与面试官保持目光接触，产品推介者则要与你的受众保持目光接触。
保持目光接触可以拉近听众与演讲者之间的距离，从而使他们摆脱紧张的气氛。而紧张则往往是由于演讲者面对素不相识的人或无法掌控的形势而产生的。目光的接触则可以为演讲者提供受众的真实面貌——对方只是听众而已。同时,目光的接触还有益于吸引观众的注意力。
3. Change your inner voice
Most of us have a critical inner voice that tells us we’re stupid, not good enough, that we’re too fat, thin, loud, quiet… Being able to change that inner voice is key to feeling self-confident on the inside, which will help you project your confidence to the world. Make your inner voice a supportive friend who knows you fully but also recognizes your talents and gifts, and wants you to make the best of yourself.
You still want to be able to hear the message, so don’t make it so chilled and laid back that you never take any notice of it. You can even choose 2, 3 or as many voices as you want for different occasions. Your voice should always support you, always be helpful, never aggressive and it never puts you down.
